Lost twin and emotional deprivation: bringing clarity to a sensitive subject

For about ten years, the theme of emotional deprivation has become central in many therapeutic, spiritual and karmic approaches. Many people seek to understand where this inner void comes from, this persistent feeling of lack, sometimes impossible to fill despite relationships, a family, a job or a balanced external life.

Among the proposed explanations, the lost twin theory is increasingly being put forward. This article does not aim to deny biological, psychological or transgenerational realities, but to bring clarity , nuance and above all to restore responsibility where it is truly transformative .

Emotional deprivation: a reality, not a fault

Emotional deprivation exists. It is profound, sometimes long-standing, and it affects all categories of people :

• those who have brothers and sisters,

• those who grew up in loving families,

• those who are professionally successful,

• those who seem to “have everything to be happy”.

  
  

This lack signifies neither personal failure nor parental fault. Yet, for years, individuals have been told that their suffering stemmed from:

• from their parents

• of their family history,

• from their ancestors

• traumas that absolutely must be identified.

  
  

Looking for an origin is not in itself a mistake. But identifying a cause does not automatically cure the illness .

The trap of single causality

In a karmic reading, when an emotional void persists, the temptation is great to search ever further:

• childhood,

• the parents,

• grandparents,

• previous generations,

• And now today: the lost twin.

  
  

The phenomenon of the vanishing twin is based on a possible biological reality: early embryonic resorption. This reality is not disputed.

But one essential question remains: does knowing this cure emotional deprivation?

Experience shows that this is not the case.

Many people know, understand, identify…and yet continue to feel this inner emptiness.

For what ?

Because emotional deprivation is first and foremost individual , intimate, embodied. It does not disappear because an explanation is found for it.

The missing twin: one explanation among others, not a solution

Reducing emotional suffering to a lost twin poses several problems:

• This traps the person in an identity of injury.

• This shifts responsibility to an event over which she has no control.

• This perpetuates the idea that healing comes from the past, and not from the present.

  
  

However, people who have actually experienced twin pregnancies, or who are twins themselves, also feel this emotional void. This clearly shows that the void is not linked to the existence or absence of another person , but to the way in which emotions have been structured internally.

Cellular memory, karma, and life experiences

Yes, cellular memory exists. Yes, we carry memories that are not limited to our conscious birth. We were once an ovum in our mother's womb, and our mother was herself in her mother's womb. Therefore, there are transmissions, imprints, and resonances.

But karma is not a tribunal of the past. It is an inner planet of experiences , of functionings, of memories — from other lives, from this life, from the transgenerational and the archaic.

At a certain point, some explanations cease to be effective. They explain, but no longer uplift. They describe, but no longer transform.

Emotional responsibility: a maturity to be built

We have reached a turning point today. For many, the year 2026 marks the end of justifications and the search for answers, and the beginning of real emotional responsibility .

Responsibility does not mean guilt. It means:

• to recognize that no one can build our emotional life for us,

• Stop looking outside for the causes of our inner emptiness.

• understand that emotional maturity is built.

  
  

We have all, at one time or another, sought:

• crutches,

• external security measures,

• close, almost symbiotic relationships

• restorative figures.

This is part of the journey, but getting stuck in this search prevents construction.

Self-knowledge rather than the search for a culprit

Spending years analyzing one's family tree, family traumas, deaths, abortions, miscarriages, can become:

• guilt-inducing

• intrusive,

• and often ineffective in terms of healing.

  
  

Knowing what happened does n't heal , but knowing yourself transforms you. Simply being present with the "how" is the first step.

• how we function emotionally

• how we love,

• How do we keep ourselves safe?

• What are its weaknesses (not its flaws)?

• What is his/her real identity, beyond family, school or professional roles?

This is where true emotional and affective maturation begins.

To build oneself up instead of endlessly repairing oneself

We are not broken beings to be repaired indefinitely. We are complex beings to be understood.

The priority today is no longer to constantly delve into the past, but to become emotionally mature , to build a coherent emotional life, and to create relationships from this inner foundation.

It was at that moment that:

• Relationships become simpler.

• The encounters cease to be painful.

• Emotional suffering loses its power.

In conclusion

Emotional suffering cannot be reduced:

• to a lost twin,

• to a twin flame,

• to a family,

• to parents,

• to an isolated event.

• to bad "karma"

The subject is much broader. It touches on identity, emotional maturity, and inner responsibility.

Karma is not a condemnation. It is a set of known patterns that can be overcome.

True healing begins when we stop looking for who or what we lacked, and begin to meet ourselves .

If what I have just shared resonates with you, I invite you to continue this path of understanding and self-knowledge.

You can find my books on karma, relationships, and emotional development, as well as my coaching services, on my website and start reading them here: https://www.caseor.com/livressurlekarma