I wish to share with you my vision of high potentiality through my own experience and that of others.
Being what is called "High potential", I too have experienced emotionally difficult school lessons in the midst of bickering while I was thinking, analyzing and rethinking my environment. I have also experienced the difficulties of transmitting to my colleagues because it is easy to go from A to Z without steps but I lost everyone at the 3rd sentence of explanation.
I also experienced #burnout where you take on positions of responsibility with work for 2 but the anxieties are impossible to control because you do daily work and in-depth work that no one sees the use of....until everything stops...
Living with extraordinary abilities is a daily balancing act between the emotions of hypersensitivity and the way we think.
Balance and inner peace will always be the motivation of the high potential, who, even before helping others or beginning to find stability, will have to search deep within himself to find who he is.
The hypersensitive high potential is totally immersed in his environment, people, their emotions, sometimes even their thoughts. It is totally uncontrollable!
He will spend time in isolation to sort out what belongs to him and what belongs to others, to take stock of himself throughout his life.
Existential questions are therefore part of him from childhood: why, how... to become in adulthood who am I? what am I doing here? why am I here? He will search until he has the answer, until he finds his own truth, which can take years!
High potential people cannot stand being ignored; ignoring them means not answering their questions and this creates an excessive frustration in them.
High potential is curious, he is interested in everything that can nourish his discovery: the world, people...
High potential associated with hypersensitivity has very deep values of sincerity, truth, authenticity... and above all beliefs, particularly educational ones (fidelity, loyalty, respect...). He will therefore be disproportionately hurt when he discovers that his own beliefs are not his truth and that it is necessary to put them into perspective in his life.
This gap between what he believes he is and what he is creates an emotional quagmire and an uncontrollable tsunami that will necessarily lead to the search once again for his own truth.
This phenomenon often occurs after a job loss, a family breakup, a separation, a bereavement where each stage is experienced as a bereavement of the being.
Any form of separation (environment, friends, family, couple, etc.) is experienced tragically, the high potential lives in a whole and is part of a whole, he does not know and cannot live otherwise.
Most high potentials are thinkers so they compensate by working a lot and engaging in a thousand and one activities at the same time, it's normal! As soon as he stops he falls back into his thought patterns of existence (consciously or unconsciously). He therefore needs to nourish himself intellectually or physically: research, reading, passions, sport...
The lack of emotional and intellectual balance often affects the night: difficulty falling asleep (thoughts), insomnia, dreams, nightmares, a time when emotions are digested.
For all the people reading this article, it is possible that you feel concerned. Know that many high potentials are unaware of it (we wrongly think that studies are in proportion to potential, which is totally wrong). They feel a deep malaise often described as a depression that is not one, feel misunderstood and permanently out of step with those around them (personal or professional) or their environment.
Spirituality, personal development (self-knowledge, astrology, numerology) has truly been the gateway to my metaphysical questions and to the discovery of myself.
People who do not do this research work can get lost and run away from themselves, sometimes for a whole life! It's a shame, it's not inevitable.
I just want to tell you that we are a magnificent machine, which used wisely, can do wonders. Find yourself, find your essence, and especially your independence and your emotional autonomy. Your aspirations, your deepest values are often well buried, hidden under layers of beliefs, educational patterns but it is present. What is essential is to be good with yourself. Inner discomfort can be healed no matter the path followed and letting go is possible.
Favor jobs where you can be your own master, you can't stand authority or orders!
An important message to high potentials: forgive yourself for your uncontrollable outbursts when your fears lead you to torpor which can seem like depression.
Forgive yourself for not finding answers to your questions, for not knowing everything...
Forgive yourself if you are insistent with the people around you, it is not your fault, it is your deep nature to obtain answers.
Make them read the article, they will understand!
Best regards and have a great day
Angelique CHAPUIS
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