Hello everyone,
Today I want to address a topic that concerns us all to varying degrees: recognition.
Although it is often discussed in the professional world, its ramifications extend far beyond that, affecting our family and personal relationships, and even our own relationship with ourselves.
This need, deeply rooted in each of us, sometimes hides a karmic wound that needs to be understood and healed.
Recognition at work: working to be loved
In our society, professional recognition is often an unconscious goal. We work to obtain the appreciation of our superiors, bonuses, or simply a look or words of appreciation. Behind this, there is often an unconscious quest: to be liked.
This dynamic may seem harmless, but it often creates deep suffering. How many of us have felt invisible despite our efforts? How many have been hurt by seeing a colleague rewarded when they have invested so much of themselves? This quest for external validation can become an exhausting cycle, where we always give more, sometimes to the detriment of ourselves, without ever feeling fully recognized.
At work, this pattern can cause imbalances:
Unpaid overtime, often accepted in the hope of future recognition.
Frustration over missed bonuses or promotions.
A misalignment between our efforts and what the business actually expects.
These gaps fuel a feeling of injustice and accentuate the wound of recognition, especially when our human value is associated only with financial results or hierarchical assessments.
Family recognition: doing to be loved
But this quest does not stop at work. It often takes root in our family relationships. Doing to be loved, helping to be valued, bending over backwards to gain the approval of others.
These behaviors, although unconscious, are established from childhood.
Maybe you were that child who was looking for a compliment or a look of approval from a parent, a teacher.
Perhaps you grew up believing that you had to earn love by being perfect or meeting other people's expectations.
These unconscious patterns are deeply ingrained in us and shape our adult behaviors.
In our family relationships, this often translates into:
Please others at all costs.
Putting aside one's own needs to satisfy those of those close to oneself.
Seeking to fill an emotional void through actions or sacrifices.
And yet, this dynamic is based on a karmic misunderstanding. Recognition must not come from others. It begins within us.
A karma of recognition to heal
This wound of recognition is often a reflection of karma. It is not a question of guilt or responsibility of others, but an energetic inheritance that we carry and that manifests itself through our relationships and experiences. This karma, often inherited from past lives and reactivated in our childhood, highlights an inner imbalance: the fact of seeking outside validation that we do not offer to ourselves.
Recognizing this wound is the first step to healing it. It involves understanding that:
The environment is not responsible for this lack of recognition.
The key lies within us: in our ability to recognize and value ourselves.
Inner recognition: reconnecting with one’s authenticity
True healing from this karma involves reconnecting with oneself. This involves learning to value one's own knowledge of being and know-how without waiting for external approval.
For entrepreneurs or business creators, this inner recognition is essential. If we are not aligned with our core business, if we do not recognize our own value, it becomes difficult for others (customers, partners, colleagues) to recognize us in turn.
It is this gap between our true essence and the image we project that can lead to failure or a lack of connection with our audience.
Recognition: A Path to Balance and Freedom
Releasing this wound of recognition is giving yourself permission to live fully, without trying to please at all costs. It is learning to see yourself as you are, to love yourself for what you bring to the world, without waiting for external validation.
When we heal this wound, we transform our relationship to work, to family, and to ourselves. We find a deep balance and a freedom of being that allows us to move forward in peace and authenticity.
And you, do you feel that this karma of recognition influences your life?
If so, know that you are not alone. This injury is common, but it can be transformed.
I am here to support you in this process, to help you reconnect with your essence and release this karmic weight.
With gratitude,
Angelique Chapuis
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